Remember when you got it all figured out and were ready to have the best time of your life, visiting a mall or a wedding? Perhaps you have the best outfit and makeup, but when you see other people looking like fashionistas, you start doubting yourself by constant comparison and feel like an outcast. You ran into someone who seemed to have their life more together than you, and suddenly, your good mood vanished. Because you find yourself lacking. Do you think those people are perfect?

It’s easy to get caught up in comparing yourself to others, especially regarding your appearance. But the truth is, nobody is perfect. Everyone has their own insecurities and doubts. You are just as worthy and valuable as anyone else. Embrace your individuality and accept yourself for who you are. 

Feeling Like an Outcast?

Have you ever felt like everyone else looks amazing when you’ve felt outcasted? I certainly have. Recently, I visited a mall where people were looking their best. I couldn’t help but compare myself to them and feel inferior. I caught myself constantly thinking that I should’ve been looking amazing, too. However, I was just as valuable and worthy as everyone else in that mall. Everyone has their own struggles and issues. The world is a great place where we can all be ourselves and support each other.

It’s easy to feel like you don’t belong when surrounded by people who seem to have it all together. But the truth is, everyone feels outcasted at some point. We can all relate to this experience. We’ve all been there before. And we all know how it feels. So keep doing you, girl. Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. Everyone has quirks and imperfections. I think it’s safe to say that we all have a few of them, in fact!

Stop Focusing on What You Don’t Have

She looks prettier than me. Their lives look so perfect, and mine’s suck. They’re good at everything, and I’m not. Why does that person have that car and I don’t? It’s easy to compare ourselves to others and find ourselves lacking. We see someone thin and beautiful and think, “I’ll never be like that.” We see someone with a great job and a happy family life and think, “What’s wrong with me?”

Comparisons are natural, but they can also be destructive. When we compare ourselves to others, we usually compare our worst qualities to their best ones. We focus on what we don’t have instead of what we do have. If you’re constantly comparing yourself to others, ask yourself: What am I doing that they aren’t? 

If you’re jealous of someone else’s success, do a little soul-searching. You may find that you don’t want the same things as that person. It’s not a competition. You can only do your best, and no one else can do it for you.

Here are 7 valid reasons why you should stop comparing yourself to others and live the way you want:

Your Lose Your Sense of Self-Worth

Your sense of self-worth should not come from comparing yourself to others. Here’s why.

Constantly comparing yourself to others is like living in a world of competition, where there is always someone better than you. It can be destructive in many ways and lead to feelings of inferiority, envy, and resentment. It can also make you lose sight of your own unique talents and qualities. Most importantly, comparing yourself to others takes away your power to create your own life the way you want. 

When you focus on what someone else has that you don’t, you’re not living YOUR life – you’re living theirs. So instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on becoming the best ‘YOU’ you can be. No matter how minor they may seem, take pride in your accomplishments. And always remember that YOU are the only one who gets to decide what’s best for YOU.

Ruined Happiness

When you compare yourself to others, you’re essentially holding up a magnifying glass to your own flaws and insecurities. Whether you’re jealous of someone’s career, weight, relationship, or anything else… it all comes back to how YOU feel about yourself. If you’re constantly putting yourself down and feeling inadequate, it makes it that much harder to be happy with your own life. So the first step in overcoming comparisons is to stop focusing on what others have and start focusing on what you have.

• First, when you focus on what you don’t have, it’s easy to become resentful and unhappy.

• It often leads to unrealistic expectations. You may start to expect too much of yourself or set goals that are impossible to achieve.

• Finally, constantly comparing yourself to others can affect your self-esteem and confidence.

If you want to be happy, it’s important to focus on your life and what you do rather than fixating on what someone else has and doesn’t. Be grateful for your blessings and work hard towards your goals. Remember, comparisons are rarely accurate and can only make you feel bad about yourself.

You Lack Motivation

I have always been a competitive person. The kind of person who always had to be the best, do the most and be the leader. I was never content with just being average. My drive to succeed was always fueled by my need to be better than those around me. I always had to be the best in school, sports, and in my relationships. The problem with this attitude is that it can easily lead to a sense of “entitlement”.

But then I felt that comparing myself to others was destroying my motivation. I was so focused on what everyone else was doing that I wasn’t paying attention to my own goals. I was constantly measuring myself against other people and coming up short. Eventually, I realized that I wasn’t living my life for myself. I was living to meet other people’s standards and expectations. That’s when I realized I needed to change.

Now, instead of comparing myself to others, I focus on my own personal growth. I set goals and then work hard to accomplish them. Instead of obsessing over what everyone else is doing, I focus on my own life and my own happiness. And that means a lot more to me than anything else in the world.

When you compare yourself to others, it’s easy to become discouraged and give up on your own goals and dreams. After all, why bother reaching for something if someone else has already achieved it? The truth is, most people are not where they want to be in life. If you’re reading this blog, I assume you’re looking for ways to improve your life. But if all you ever do is compare yourself to others, it will be impossible for you to achieve your goals. 

Damaged Relationships

Comparing yourself to others is a surefire way to ruin your relationships. You’re bound to feel envy, jealousy, and resentment when you compare yourself to others. These negative emotions can damage your relationship beyond repair. I know this from personal experience.

I had a friend who had the best relationship until she became so uptight and insecure that she couldn’t stop comparing her relationship to everyone else’s. She would call me at all hours of the day, venting about my friends, whom she felt had better relationships than hers. She became even more upset when I tried to help her understand that not everyone has the same problems. As a result of her comparison, she ended up alienating herself from her boyfriend, which ruined a perfectly good relationship.

Insecurity is the best way to turn a good relationship into a bad one. When you’re insecure, you make everything in your life about you. If one of my friends has a failed marriage, I can certainly sympathize with her. I know she’s going through a tough time, and her experience is valid. However, I can’t break up with my partner because my friend had a worse experience in her life, thinking about all the bad possibilities for my own relationship. I must remember that I have no control over my friend’s life, and she has no control over mine.

Less Creativity

Creativity is the most important thing to me. I can’t help but compare myself to other writers, which brings me down. I’m all out of ideas. I don’t know what to write about. I can’t come up with a plot line. 

Do you compare yourself to other writers? How does that affect your writing? Not good, right? This is the mindset that I had for years. I compared myself to other writers, which kept me from writing. I would talk about writing but never actually do it. It took me 3 years to finally have the courage to start a blog. I would tell myself that I wasn’t a good writer, that my writing was boring, and that I didn’t have anything interesting to say. And that everything in this world has already been said by someone else. So I kept putting it off. If it weren’t for comparisons, I would’ve started sooner.

The problem with comparing yourself to other writers is that you’re only looking at what they’ve done, not the amount of time they’ve spent. You’re all different, and you all have different experiences. It’s possible that what works for you won’t work for me and vice versa.

Once I finally started writing, I realized that I was the only one that could write what I wanted to say. My voice mattered. And it did matter. What matters most is doing your best and not letting anything stop you from pushing forward to achieve your goals. You go, girl!

Destroyed Confidence

You’ll obviously lack confidence in yourself and your abilities if you keep complaining about everything in your life. When you compare yourself to others, you easily lose confidence in yourself and your abilities. If you’re constantly complaining about everything in your life, it’s a clear sign that you don’t believe in yourself. Lack of confidence can lead to many problems, including relationship issues, career setbacks, and general unhappiness.

You have the power to change your life, but you need to believe in yourself and your abilities. And you’ll be amazed at how confident you feel when you stop complaining. You won’t want to keep comparing yourself to others, and you’ll begin to realize that your life is just fine the way it is. 

When you have confidence in yourself, achieving your goals and being happy with who you are will be easier. You have to accept yourself for who you are and stop dwelling on the things about yourself that you don’t like. You can’t change your past, but you can always improve your future.

Decreased Kindness

Tons of people are stressed out every day. You don’t want to be someone who makes their life harder by being rude and disrespectful to others. The world is a cruel place; I can tell you that much. You’ll have a much easier time if you just help others out. It’s much easier to get what you want out of life when you’re on good terms with everyone else. If you’re respectful, they’ll treat you the same way. It’s a pretty simple formula. Those who are kind to you will reciprocate the favor.

If someone is rude to you, just remember that they probably had a bad day too. Try to be a little kinder to them than you would normally be. It’ll be worth it in the end. Trust me. Take chances. If you’re not trying new things, you’re wasting your time. You have one life to live; why waste it?

Final Thoughts

In a world where social media allows us to compare ourselves to others daily, it’s important to remember that looks aren’t everything. Just because someone is beautiful on the outside doesn’t mean they’re beautiful on the inside too. The celebrities we see in magazines and on TV might have perfect lives, but we don’t know what goes on behind closed doors. So before comparing yourself to someone else, remember that you don’t know what their life is like.

We often forget that looks can be deceiving. Someone may not actually be in control just because they appear to be. In fact, many celebrities have failed marriages. If looks were the only thing that mattered, they would be the happiest. What’d you think?